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Teaching gender equality at school

It’s time to talk about gender out in the open, the way we talk about all other subjects. And the earlier, the better. Studies show that parents begin treating their daughters or sons differently as soon as they are born, comforting crying girls more than crying boys and praising toddlers for either playing with building blocks or dolls depending on their gender. The behavioral scripts run deep because they are assigned to us as soon as we enter this world.

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Anyone with experience of working or living with children will know their ability to detect injustice is highly developed – “but it’s not fair” is a regular refrain. However, we rarely ask them to channel this natural flair for fairness into productive and critical discussion about the nature of equality, what constitutes fair treatment, and who gets to define such standards.

How do we Create a World Free from Gender-based Discrimination?

Start by raising children who respect one another as individuals and question the traditional roles they’re assigned as boys or girls. Educators are uniquely positioned to show students they have a choice when it comes to forming their own identity, and to highlight the many illusions and traps society has laid before them that prevent equal opportunity in their personal and professional lives. It’s time to give gender equality the place it deserves in our curricula, from the fine arts to the hard sciences and from kindergarten to secondary school and beyond.

Below are a few ways that teachers can use to promote gender equality in schools.

Disassociate Character Traits from Gender

If we teach students that “boys can be sensitive” and “girls can be dominant,” we are still presenting sensitivity as a feminine trait and dominance as a masculine trait. We need to disassociate these terms from gender and teach students to judge a person—female, male, nonbinary—as an individual with a complex makeup of characteristics.

Take care, in the language you use, to avoid confirmation of gender norms. Try to open up definitions of masculinity to include traits like sensitivity and expand definitions of femininity to include traits like dominance. Make room for emerging definitions of nonbinary and transgender identities as well.

Don’t Distance the Boys

Many of us are much harsher on boys than on girls when it comes to behavioral issues, but this fuels destructive cultural phenomena like toxic masculinity. When boys are constantly targeted in this way, they internalize their shame as anger, which often leads to further behavioral issues down the road.

When a female student runs for a leadership position in student council but is told she would make an excellent secretary because “none of the boys can do the job right,” that’s benevolent sexism.

In a study of gender equality in Turkish schools, British Council representative Fatma Özdemir Uluç writes:

“Teachers were also surprised by what our research revealed about their behavior towards boys in the classroom. For example, boys said that teachers had a no-tolerance attitude to their ‘bad’ behavior, while when the girls acted in the same way the teachers did not react at all. The boys felt that they picked up the labels of being ‘naughty’ and ‘useless’ quickly and easily, making them feel side-lined and neglected. We need to focus on boys just as much as girls, and make sure that no one feels left out or favored.”

Let’s also take care not to center discussions of gender equality around girls only. It affects boys as well, and they need to become aware of this not only to help themselves but to empathize with and help girls as well.

Make Physical Education about Body Awareness

Teach students to become aware of the way females and males occupy space differently. For instance, a male student might share what it’s like to feel pressure to “show off” his physical strength, while a female student might share what it’s like to feel like she needs to hide her body in order to avoid unwanted attention. How can females make males feel more secure about their bodies (e.g. letting them know that respect for women is more important than being “built”), and how can males make females feel more secure about theirs (e.g. helping women shut down unwanted attention as effectively as possible)?

Teach them about the most important physical agent of change, the voice, as well. A voice can perpetuate or reduce gender bias, depending on how it’s used. Hold discussions on what happens when men raise their voices above women’s, when women raise their voices above men’s, when discrimination occurs but no one speaks up, and how we can use our voices in different ways to navigate tough situations.

Highlight Implicit Biases such as Benevolent Sexism

Students may look around and think, “I don’t see any gender bias here.” But that’s probably because most of us have only been educated on how hostile sexism works, and hostile sexism isn’t the kind of sexism that most people experience day-to-day. Another form of gender bias, benevolent sexism, is more frequently at play.

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Benevolent sexism is sexism that works by “buttering up” its victim, thereby coercing the victim into his or her own oppression. Oftentimes its perpetrators aren’t even aware they’re doing it. When a female student runs for a leadership position in student council but is told she would make an excellent secretary because “none of the boys can do the job right,” that’s benevolent sexism. It’s reinforcing unwanted gender roles by spinning them in a positive light. Let’s teach students to recognize and deal with situations like these.

Emphasize the Power of Language

Teach students to recognize gender bias in language when they hear or see it. For example, why do we hear, internalize, and accept the refrain “Be a man” so unquestioningly? So much is packed in those three simple words, from ideas of how men are expected to shape their self-worth around traditional notions of masculinity to the noticeable absence of the phrase “Be a woman.” Hold as many discussions as possible about the way gender bias has wormed its way into our everyday language, and how continued use of these phrases perpetuates the bias that inspired them in the first place.

Teach Purpose Before Popularity

So many of us—children and adults alike—don’t speak up for fear of social rejection. Especially when students are young, around middle and high school age, it’s highly important to convey the value in “standing up for what’s right even if you stand alone.” Be clear about the fact that students may not be rewarded with popularity and social acceptance for doing what’s right, but that anyone who does reject them for trying to make the world a more equitable, peaceful place isn’t worth their heartache anyway.

Teach Vocabulary to Navigate Uncomfortable Situations

Helping students recognize instances of gender bias is one thing; helping them confront it is another. Students need the vocabulary to deal with what will often be uncomfortable situations, and we can play a part in giving it to them.

The vocab will be specific depending on the context, but one general all-purpose response is to say, “I don’t define myself by [X].” For instance, if a male student is teased for not being strong or fast enough in gym class, he can say, “I don’t define myself by how fast I run” or “I don’t define myself by how much I can bench press.” If a girl is automatically cast as a “secretary type” on the student council, she can say, “I don’t define myself that way; I think of myself as a leader.”

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Let’s help them develop a vocabulary not only for standing up for themselves but for others as well.

When a female student sees a male student being picked on for what other students perceive as “feminine” characteristics, she can approach those other students and say, “Don’t pick on him for being himself.” Similarly, if a male student sees that a female student is being left out of the decision-making process in a group project, he can make a point of asking her what she thinks and using his own voice to make space for hers.

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