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You Cannot Be Lonely, If You Like The Person You’re Alone With

The title I chose is a quote by Wayne Dyer and my interpretation as to how you can conveniently start liking the person you are alone with while why some people need others to complete them. Knowing your self-worth and defending self-respect should be one's core focus.

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I’ll start with why some people need others to complete them and ultimately wind up finding the answers that will help them to like the person they are alone with.

The 5 Questions That Needs Answering Are:

1: The first question you need to be asking yourself that is there a void to fill in your life and are you after something or someone?

2: Are you at peace with yourself and accept who you are as a person?

3: Do you need others to complement and complete you to fill that void maybe?

4: Are you addicted to the attention that delivers a shot of dopamine and as a result only then you feel a sense of self-worth?

5: Finally are you trying to live up to others’ expectations and their judgments?

Let’s do some soul searching for the above questions in finding the answers.

The Human Connection

We all as humans need a sense of worth and liking and there’s nothing wrong with that unless our sole purpose is to win over others and everyone to like us at any cost.

The strongest people tend to face the truths of life head on and confront their fears not run away from them or simply to the comfort of others.

Also, there is no harm in being with people that are close to you such as friends, colleagues, acquaintances and family members that respect and understand you as who you are as a person not what they expect you to be.

Bring The Best Out Of You

Being with people should bring the best in you not the stress in you. Being with the first type of people is always beneficial for your personal growth and development. You can be more of who you are and want to be and again not what they expect you to be.

There is nothing-wrong being with others but don’t think that they complete you in any way.

The Downside Of Belonging To Others

Firstly because if you think you need someone/something to complete you then there will always be a void in your life in some form that you’ll be unable to fill.

Secondly, if you can’t enjoy your own company then no other company can make you complete because you are always looking for something that’s missing in your life to make you happy and complete.

The Side Effects Of Seeking Attention

The downside of being addicted to attention and wanting your dopamine shot is that, no matter how many shots you get it will never be enough and the addiction becomes more and more with time that will eventually make you more hollow from within and more dependent on others to complete you.

Let Go Of Living By Others Expectations

Lastly, remember that no matter what you do for others, you cannot live up to their expectations and someone will always be able to find fault with who you are as a person or what you are doing.

Food For Soul

Question 1: So ask yourself why bother and lose your peace?

Question 2: Wouldn’t you like to live in peace and accept who you are as a person than needing others to complete and compliment you all the time?

Know Your Worth

When you rediscover yourself and your true worth then you are more likely to enjoy your own company too as you enjoy the company of others.

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The strongest people tend to face the truths of life head on and confront their fears not run away from them or simply to the comfort of others.

Face The Reality & Be Who You Are

When you face the truth and live your life in such a tone then you are more likely to take appropriate actions that are beneficial for your own well-being without being much dependent on others because now you are able to see things more clearly as well as your weaknesses and strengths.

How To Improve Your Self Worth

The easiest way to improve your self worth is by stop comparing yourself to others. Because if you do compare, then all your energy and time is wasted in competing with them or winning them over by any means while you neglect your own personal development and lose your self-respect.

Make Yourself The Centre Of Everything

Instead, if you are willing to put all the extra effort in competing with yourself, you are not only likely to have a better understanding as to who you are, where do you stand in life and what you truly want in life that in turn delivers more peace and contentment in your life.

When You Rediscover Your True Worth

When you reach such a point in life where you rediscover your true worth and are at peace with yourself, then you can do anything at your own because you have a better sense of who you are and also on the right path in life that you can walk even alone if have to.

Conclusion

Having said all this enjoy your life with people you love and with the company of those who bring the best out of you and accept you as who you are but remember your well-being comes first and secondly never stop working in being better than your former self…. all the rest comes after.

Sultan Suleman is Director at SS Headway Consulting, Seoul, S.K. He is a motivational mentor and entrepreneur. The views expressed in this article are the author’s own and do not necessarily reflect Global Village Space’s editorial policy.

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